Reality Check

How many times have you heard stuff like:

1)There's no real friends at work.
2)Everyone has a history.
3)We should be completely honest when being in a relationship.

Lets start from number 1. When people say there's no real friends at work its true. When my sis graduate from uni she had this job at this company that pays her, well the market price for fresh grad, considering my sister had some experience prior to getting her degree she wasn't that fresh as a graduate (one that has no experience at all). 18 hundred dollars wasn't that bad for a start. But she had to endure a boss who scolds people with bad language. So she quitted the job, lucky her they sent her to Hong Kong for an assignment which she got her next job 100% increment in salary plus other perks as an expat. Housing allowance and stuff.

For the next seven years or so she worked really hard and her efforts paid off with allocation of shares and maybe more allowance towards her housing and stuff. Well, as a woman in a men's world in business. Green eye monster everywhere, how could this woman from Singapore climb high in a men's world in business. Personally I do not agree that only men can do well in business.

For starters she got one of her friends a job in the company,. What did she get? Backstabbed by this very friend whom she was nice and kind to get a job for. Then like in the soap series, someone stole her documents! Being nice to people doesn't pay as good as we think, doesn't it?

Let us look at number 2, everyone has a history/past be it good or bad it just make up the person who we really are today. There's just some part of us that we wished we have forgotten, but whether or not if we remember they just stay with us for the rest of our lives. Everyone has some secrets, that they did not want others to know.

Sometimes these dark moments just creep up on us when its least expected. When there's no way we can change any of these moments, there's nothing we can do except to learn from it and move on. Sometimes it just keep coming back and taunt us, so what do we do? We tell lies to conceal them, we pretended that things like that never happen and never talk about it until one day they just resurface! Especially in a relationship (which more or less brings us to point number 3), when we think the best policy is to be completely honest and tell our partners everything about what happened in our lives prior to meeting them.

Yes, being completely honest is a beauty, have you ever think how will it affect the relationship? It can go either way, make the relationship stronger or everything just collapse overnight. If telling a white lie gets things going it might seem like a good option. But what if the lie just snowball and gets bigger way out of hand? What do we do? Come clean with the truth and make things worst?

Just like in The Little Black Book where Stacy was desperate to know the past of her boyfriend. Yes she got to know everything about him eventually, only to realise that he belonged to someone else. It just hurts that things have to come out in a way that you had to find out yourself and your partner has not been completely honest with you (been there done that). The pain is just too intense to be handled and one would just breakdown in that mere moment.

Maybe sometimes secrets should remain secrets, not an ideal way but hey who cares when it makes life easier! So ignorance is bliss after all at moments like that, afterall, the lesser you know the less hurt you feel.