Couples usually start off as friends who talk about everything and anything, but when in a relationship all that changes why is that so? Men often say that theres things that they cannot tell their partners only to friends, women also have the same problem at times there are things that they can only talk about with friends and not with their partners. What I think its the fear of upsetting each other that becomes the invisible barrier between couples, things start to go wrong when they start communicating with friends and not their partners.
Men always use excuses like they do not want to burden their partners with their problems, men are human afterall, it is the ego that prevent men from showing their emotional side? While this is the case with men, women on the other hand are often being lablled as being overly emotional. For the fear of burdening men, women often turn to friends to whine about their problems.
Have we all forgotten the person we love is supposed to be the best of friends with us? How are couples not communicating with each other expect to spend the rest of their lives together?
While we all know that talking things out is the way to solve problems, we choosed to fight it out. Does it help when we fight? I am prolly a person with a quick temper, but also will try to control myself before things get out of hands. One of my girl friends was wondering how could I walk away from confrontation with one of my exs when I could trash things out there and then. To me its simply learn over the years, if we are both shouting then who is listening? So... Are human are bunch of violent animals?
2 comments:
mmm... I know most of Joe and vice versa. Well, besides those private secrets that others prefer not to say then I won't tell him. It's better to tell each other stuff so that the trust is stronger and the relationship stands on no doubts.
friend's secrets we dun say lar.... but its like personal secrets... people keep emphasizing on personal space... hmmm.....
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