if u decide to love someone, so is it out of feelings or just a sense of responsibility??
If its a feeling; will it fade?
If its a decision out of responsibility; how long will it last?
Without a strong feeling for the person, how can one's responsibility last? We both reckon it'd just turn out to be dreadful; if its with a very very strong feeling it is not a responsibility anymore. It'd be something beautiful.
I'd say without feelings involved this decision is gonna be one of a hell ride.
A river is never the same, if we were to overlook the lovely views (as the changes take place over time), we'd fail big time in knowing exactly how it really looks like. Maybe thats how people drifted apart. The one you loved you once knew so well suddenly become a stanger could you still love him even when you dunno him anymore?
Will you still (stick by the decision you made to) love me (when u dunno me anymore) tomorrow?
3 comments:
I think you missed both points. The decision to love is not borne out of responsibility. Neither is it based solely on feelings. Feelings is but a small part of love. Love comes with responsibility too. But it is so much more. You cannot marry someone just because you have strong feelings for him. If you have such strong feelings for him, why hide your true feelings of ego, fear, losing face, etc..? You only reveal if you trust him, and know that he will share the same with you. Ah... another aspect of love not associated with feelings. There are others.. get the point?
And then there is the aspect of communication, that has nothing to do with feelings too. If you are unable to communicate with the guy, but you feel that you love him cos he's nice to you, takes you places, and makes you feel loved.. will you rush to marry him?
And so you say if we don't know every aspect of the person, like the changes in the view of a river, then we would have failed big time. Once we know everything, it'd be like looking at the same thing everyday over and over again and we'd grow bored. We would have failed too because we don't find the enchanting anymore. And then? We're back to square one again. So if we don't find the view enchanting anymore, will we stil feel that we love him?
Haha I think that was quite heavy, shall not post anymore. Sorry to hijack your blog.
Cheers
Peace out.
Truth lie within the words of wisdom. Communication and actions of trust brings about a stronger relationship.
Love is never blind and it takes love, preserverence and honesty to make it work.
i'm thinkin, to love someone, is not a conscious decision dat u can make. n i think it's more like out of feelings dat u love someone. i'm afraid i feel dat feelings would fade, if u allow it to. when u start to love someone, n loved the person for a long time, when love fades, it becomes a responsibility. love fades when somethin happened, or did not happen, e.g. marriage.
hehe, some couples break up becoz they know too much of each other. they understand each other too much to know dat they won't survive the distance with each other at the end of the day. some other couples break up becoz they don't know each other enough. not being to understand the decision their partners have done, they are let down n they leave.
talkin about rivers, it's true dat if we overlook the views, we won't see the beauty of it. but i think dat knowin everythin about somethin/someone is not a bad thing. yes, we may get bored with the same routines, same behaviour etc, but if we do love someone, the same things will not be boring. couples grow with love, they complement each other n change together towards the same direction. u can't really say dat being with the same person for 10 or 20 years would feel the same, or would be boring, can u? finding someone not as enchanting anymore, love can still prevail. it's probably just finding out dat ur partner has a bad habit, if it's a relatively small n avoidable bad habit, u'd still love the person.
on the other hand, when ur loved one becomes a stranger suddenly, n u dunno the person anymore, it's hard to continue to love the person. it's like the person has changed his direction n not grow/change together with u anymore n u find it hard to accept. if the loved one has changed n still loves u, perhaps there is still hope for the r/ship. if the person doesn't love u anymore, well, it's time to move on.
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