What do we really want?

I was chilling out with an old friend of mine was chatting about the part and puzzles of relationships. What do we really want? Do we wanna stay till feelings fade, things beyond salvage, keep trying until there are more wounds or simply let go to cut losses? I have been through these dilemma and to be frank, I do not know what is the best. Prolly according to situations and the other party? I dunno.

There was a time when I thot cutting losses(pain) was the best solution, so I let go without asking what went wrong, to me it takes 2 hands to clap, prolly there are things that he cannot stand about and also he isnt perfect. But turned out that he was the most perfect one compared to the rest.

After him, I thot hmmm... maybe I should try harder, maybe I should stay on - even I knew that this is the wrong guy, maybe we I (fill in the blank) can make things right? But things turned ugly eventually because he refused to put in effort.

Speaking of which it led me to think about unconditional love. Is there such a thing as unconditional? Sometimes when we do give alot into a relationship, is it unconditional? Aint we all expecting something in return? i.e. the other person to love us more or if not equally just as much as we do? For the second scenerio I was giving alot, I was expecting to make a point - maybe by putting in more I'd make things go my way.

I personally do not believe in unconditional stuff especially , specifically when it comes to relationships. Put it across straight - theres no free lunch in this world. At least I do not believe in free lunches. Personally I do not believe in - oh as long as one is in love, he/she would only want to see the other party happy. This is bullshit to me. As for myself, if I really do break up with someone I love, I don't think that I can bear to see him with another woman. I'd want to live better than when I was with him. Not me, not I, simply not that gracious.