I kinda told this to every guy(those who talked about getting married) I have gone out with, I want my engagement ring to be 10 caret or else do not expect me to say yes when you propose! I supposed this kinda scare them off. Some of you reading this entry must be "fwah what are you thinking gal, you made of gold or your c**t is diamond studded? You dare to ask for 10 caret diamond? Who do you think you are? Even Camilla only got a 8 carets ring with all stones combined! Hell man, you must be one materialistic bitch, come to your senses how many men out there can actually afford a 10 caret bling bling??"
Oh man! 10 caret why don't you ask gals out there, who could resist a 10 caret bling bling? I'd say 9/10 out there would not say no to a 10 caret authentic diamond! Why the fuss over a stupid piece of expensive rock? A proposal ring is a proposal ring. Yes that's right on! A proposal ring is a ring that you used to propose to the one you love! If you cannot afford a rock then simply get a plain band. Nobody will say anything about that! It's the thought that counts! I will say that it's totally out of point if a guy were to get a lab diamond to propose to his gal! Why a lab diamond? Simple gold band of the same price will do the trick, why want to make it look so good when it's fake? I mean at least be sincere about it, if the girl is willing to "strive" with him just get a regular wedding band.
What's the point of this entry anyway? I read Black Jettas's blog on an entry of a friend of her who propose with an AUD$50 lab created diamond. Apparently this guy is doing his Ph.D, and reckons that he should propose to his gal because it's time to take the relationship up a level. What is this guy thinking? When he cannot even afford a decent engagement ring, he wants his gal to marry him?!
It's not being materialistic here, I'm just being realistic. So what's with the 10 caret diamond ring demand I have towards the guys I have gone out with? My reason, if he can afford to set aside a few grand towards the 10 caret engagement ring, when he can afford it, you think I will really insist on that 10 caret? Look here, I haven got big fingers to carry that ring, so maybe a 2 or 3 caret will do fine. So why insist on 10 caret when I am willing to settle for much less? Firstly, I do not deny that marrying rich is a bonus. NOTE: BONUS; not a necessity. I believe it's important for a woman to be self sufficient. Being rich on my own and then maybe marry someone rich as a bonus. That's my ideology! Yeh yeh yeh whatever, I am just saying shit to cover up that I am a tai tai wannabe, you might think. To strive with the man I love yes, to struggle to make ends meet? Hell no! Just think if a couple has to worry about even to put food on the table, how happy can they get?
Getting married is not about whether its about time to or not. It's about the two people involved being mentally ready, most importantly financially ready to start their lives together maybe later start a family together. Money is not everything, but without it everybody is nothing, simply because you can't do no shit! Basic needs, a HDB flat lets say a HDB flat in Jurong (my research from HDB website) would cost about 170 thousand dollars! 20% down payment will cost about 34 thousand dollars. Minimum renovation - 30-50 thousand dollars inclusive of funishings? Here we are talking about more than 50 thousand dollars. No wedding dinner, registry of marriage another $200 bucks? How is one without income and finds even an AUD$50 lab created diamond expensive going to afford that? Spilt by half, that's like 30 thousand dollars! Monthly payments of the flat? Ute bills? Food? Transport?
I have no problems in living in a HDB flat after marriage, I have problem with people who get married when they are not financially ready/mentally ready.
Marriage needs a lot of commitment from both parties. Emotionally, financially, these come hand in hand. One of the ladies I have encountered at work told me that she and her husband used to work overseas, their plan was to save up to at least 100 thousand dollars in cash before they start a family. There they hit their target of more than 100 thousand dollars, she got pregnant, unfortunately she suffered a miscarriage and followed by some complications, all their savings gone in that flash! She told me that she was glad that they had the money and it would be unimaginable if they did not have that money at that time because she was going in and out of the hospital and could not work. Their expenses depended solely on the savings and her husband's income.
Guys might say, you girls are all out to look for someone rich so that you can be a tai tai do nothing but go shopping. Hello?! Before you shoot your mouth off, do consider about the above mentioned scenario. Yes! You might say not everyone is as unlucky as that lady, most women can still work up to the week they are due to give birth and able to work right after their maternal leave. So how about the kids education? Or lets not go too far ahead, if your wife were to work you'll need a baby sitter, okay you mom is willing to look after the kid for free. How about nappies, milk formula, milk bottles and a bunch of baby needs?
Oh yes, my last point is if you guys think that it's enjoyable to be baby sitting at home doing nothing except for household chores, think again if you think it's easy being a Stay At Home Mom (SAHM), why don't you switch roles be a Stay At Home Dad(SAHD)?
1 comment:
wah!! 10ct. pengz that's gonna cost countless grand. lol! For me its abit too much for a wedding ring. I will be the 1 in 10 minority who will feel more shocked and eek by the huge size of the rock.
It's nice to look at as a display but not my tiny finger. But I think its the thought that counts and of cos a minimum of 1 ct is good for my expectations. Lab diamonds actually look almost like the real thing but it's true that most girls will hope to get the real thing.
I must also agree that both have to be mentally and financially ready. Too much of classic examples of couples arguing over money all the time. But it's also due to the lack of time spend together during courtship. Most of the time its just sweet nothings and a yr or 2 later they get married. Going through hardship together wil be a good judge if both are able to cope even during tough times together.
Alot of people will hope to be able to stay home be mums, relax but taking care of kids are quite stressful too. I believe most girls want a sense of stability and theres the minority who are really just after the money.
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