Communications Meltdown

I was reading blinky mummy's blog on her entry of Of Boys & Men. There she has a reflection on why she likes ah beng so much. Being with guys who matched her better in terms of family background and education, they keep disappointing her time and time again. I agree with her to some extend...

Guys with ah beng personalities are easier to get along with. I also commented that guys with lower education are more predictable.. But! They are also PITA to communicate with. Simply because when you want to sort out issues these guys just sit in one corner keeping quiet. Same scenario with a guy with higher education, these guys will debate with you to the end! (Well at least you know you are getting some response rather than talking to someone who refuses to respond!)

Education do not necessarily make one a better person, thats what I have seen with my eyes. I'd think its more towards the individual personality and the bringing up. The problem with men lies in the fact that they hears you, but then they never listen! I often hear people saying.. Its better off to talk and work out the problems.

One of my friends commented that "its easier to start fresh with someone else than to deal with the problems with the current person". Isn't that running away from problems? While theres an issue with the current partner, I do not deny when someone new appears and treats you nicer is a somewhat a relief, the question is what if the problem lies in yourself and not the other party? Wouldn't the very same problem appears in the next relationship? Unless the other party is extremely accommodating, which I strongly do not think compromising too much in a relationship is healthy, how would issues ever work out if the person with the problem would not want to come to terms and face it?

One of my friends had a girlfriend who throws tantrums all the time, then came along a gal who treats him really nice and appears to understand him. He made the jump and found out apparently this gal is not what she seems like. She is an extremely good actress infront of family and friends. While being a goody two shoe to family and friends, behind closed doors she was really infact nasty to my friend. She even cheated on him couple of times with other guys. And he soon regretted leaving his ex for this two-faced bitch. He regretted not talking out issues with his ex and sort out problems. I'd say its human nature to choose an easy way out.

What causes communication meltdown? At the very beginning of a relationship couples talk about everything under the skies. At what point of the time did communication start to cease? It just happens gradually over time, and people soon find that the person they once love isn't the same person they know in the first place. It made me ponder how could some couple become telepath, while others suffer from communication meltdown... Prolly it's just not meant to be...